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How to Win Friends and Influence People

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I am sure many of you are familiar with Dale Carnegie’s best selling book How to Win Friends and Influence People. His book is one of those books that is a must read for business professionals. In this best selling book, Dale Carnegie lists six ways to make people like you. Those six things are:

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

As much as I love this book, I cannot help but think that Mr. Carnegie is missing a key point. My number one way to win friends and to influence people is to bake for them. If I want to make a good impression on someone or if I want to influence someone to do something for me, I simply bake him or her a treat of some kind and typically, I get what I want. It is very simple, really, and I do not have to do a lot of talking or listening. I simply present them with the baked good item and upon consumption, we are instant friends and they are putty in my hands.

One way that I influence my kids around the house is by baking them what they call "cupcakes" for breakfast. They are really muffins, but if they think they are getting dessert for breakfast, who am I to correct them? My husband is traveling in New York again this week so I knew I was going to need some extra help around the house from my little people. This morning, I decided to make a batch of my mini-banana muffins. My kids love these and beg for them all day long. Every time they asked for one I would say, "After you do ______, you can certainly have another muffin." They were doing chores like mad around the house today, simply to be rewarded with another mini banana muffin.

So, the next time you need to influence someone, try my suggestion of the 7th step and bake for them. You are certain to win them over in no time at all.

Julianne's Mini Banana Muffins

1 cup sugar

1/4 cup shortening

1/2 cup applesauce

2 eggs

3-4 bananas, peeled and smashed

1/2 cup water

2 cups flour

1 tsp soda

1 tsp baking powder

1/2 tsp salt

Combine the sugar and shortening until smooth. Add the applesauce, eggs, bananas and water and mix on medium for 2 minutes. In a separate bowl, combine the flour, baking soda, baking powder and salt. Once combined, slowly add to the banana mixture and mix until incorporated completely. Bake in sprayed mini muffin tins on 350 for approximately 12 minutes (or until toothpick in the center comes out clean).

Makes 48 mini muffins

Posted on Monday, August 27, 2007 at 11:14PM by Registered CommenterKristen | Comments28 Comments | References2 References

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Excellent idea to make mini muffins for incentive. :) I've heard of that book and wanted to read it. It was interesting to read the 6 (well seven ;) ) steps!
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterashley
Food always speaks louder than compliments.
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterpeabody
Yum....naner muffins!! I would scrub your floor for some of those!
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterkate
Great strategy! I'm always impressed when people bake, because I seldom do it myself!
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterLydia
Great list to influence people!
Banana muffins looks great too, those would surely make people love you!:D
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAsha
Kristen I love it! :D I wonder how old they will be before they discover that Mom's cupcakes were actually muffins! :D teehehehehehe! You crafty woman you.

And to inspire them to pick up and do chores! Magnificent thinking.

You have inspired me btw, to figure out how to hack my blog and make cosmetic changes and your pink and polka dots inspired me! So in your honor I now have polka dots and a vibrant pink border! Hope you will tell me how you like it and if you think it's too similar to yours, I will gladly change it! Now can I have a cupcake Mom?! :D ;)


August 28, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterblue zebra
Agreed! Taking baked goods to work makes you popular, too. Plus, making these MINI muffins means you (and the kids) can have more of them - so more chores get done, right? Moms are SO smart. ;)
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAbby
Oh my! Those mini-muffins look so cute.
I love your 7th step. I have started doing it recently,and I can attest to the fact that it works!
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterTBC
Makes perfect sense to me! This little ones would easily win little ones over! Cute write up.
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMy Kitchen in Half Cups
Absolutely!!! Cooking for someone is a perfect tool to break the ice!!!! And that's what I did for my new co-workers.
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterlululu
I think you should write a book!!! Now if only I could get that to work on my husband....
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDeborah
I bought a bag of ready to bake bananas at the store SUnday. I've been looking for a banana recipe and this fits the bill! Can't wait to try them later today...I'll let you know how they turn out!
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterClaire
My mama taught me a long time ago that a way to a man's heart is thru his stomach. She's also lured me home many times with her cooking. So I am totally with you about influencing people with food. I find that I utilise this tactic all the time now :-) These mini muffins will definitely do the trick.
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterNora
I agree with you. Sharing food is the most effective way to win friends. It shows almost all the point listed in the book!
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAnh
I made a few changes (after watching Dr. Oz on Oprah!) but these muffins are DELICIOUS. So moist and perfectly banana!
August 28, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterClaire
I'm totally with you on that one, it's the reason I bake for coworkers...
August 29, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterbrilynn
I've always found cooking for friends to be endearing too, Kristen. And thanks for pointing out to us.
August 29, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterCynthia
I totally agree with you, and the best friends and conversation are around the kitchen table!
August 29, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterCris
You would win me over with these, alright! :)
August 29, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterPatricia Scarpin
My post about these is up along with the changes I made! Thanks so much. THese were great...so nice and moist!
August 29, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterClaire

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